Authenticity, A Peaceful Soul and
Emotionally Intelligent Relationships

I coach couples and individuals locally and across the country in-person, on the phone and via the internet. Send me an e-mail and request a Complimentary 30-minute Interview Session to ask questions and discover whether I am the right person to help you on your journey.

Couples
• Dating / Pre-marital
• Committed / Married
• Separation / Divorce

Personal
• Life / Transition
• Professional / Business
• Singles / Dating

Do Any of These Questions Sound Familiar

Dating / Pre-Marital
• Is conflict beginning to creep into your relationship?
• Do you really understand each other’s emotional and spiritual makeup?
• Are you wondering if this is the RIGHT relationship for you?
• Have you built a roadmap for beliefs, values, vision and friendship?
• Do you have a solid foundation for healthy communication and compromise?
• Have you created a joint game plan to handle the inevitable conflicts that will arise?

Committed / Married
• Do you struggle with toxic, repetitive conflicts?
• Do you feel unloved, lonely or starved for affection?
• Are romance, intimacy and sexuality missing from your relationship?
• Do you often feel invalidated, minimized or silenced by your partner?
• Do you often feel unfairly judged, criticized or mocked by your partner?
• Is your relationship dominated by feelings of resentment, contempt and anger?
• Do you have a blanket negative perspective of your partner and the relationship?
• Do you engage in the same circular arguments while never understanding the root of the problem?

Separation / Divorce
• Are you able to communicate peacefully and effectively?
• Would you like to transform your relationship to a respectful friendship?
• Would you like to decrease the resentment, contempt and anger between you?
• Are you emotionally wounding your children as a result of your ongoing conflict?
• Would you like to move beyond the pain of the past to be healthy for your future?
• Do you require support, guidance or mediation in cooperative parenting or other challenging aspects of separation / divorce?

What Do You Want?

• Authenticity and A Peaceful Soul

o Flip Your Fear: Relish Every Precious Moment With Yourself and The Ones You Love
o Master Your Being and Doing: Love Your Life Living the Destiny You Consciously Choose
o Thrive in Alignment: Live Authentically by Honoring Your Inner Voice, Vision and Values
o Learn, Stretch, Grow, Inspire and Contribute: Never Stop Until You Are 6 Feet Under

• Emotionally Intelligent Relationships

o Inner-Self: Love Who You Are, Where You Are, Who You Are With and What You Are Doing
o Committed: Best Friends During the Day, Lovers at Night and Partners for Life
o Personal: Live With Passion and be an Example for Your Children, Family and Friends
o Professional: Success = Peaceful, Present, Positive, Proactive and Productive

Where Are You Now?

• Your “I”: Are You...

o Experiencing More Pain Then Pleasure in Your Life?
o Playing Small in the Darkness of Fear or Big in the Light of Freedom?
o Unsettled Because You Aren’t Where You Thought You Would Be By Now In Your Life?
o Honoring, Trusting, Believing in and Loving Yourself – Unconditionally?
o Living in the PAST – Procrastination, Avoidance, Stagnation, Trepidation?

• Your “WE’”: Are You…

o Experiencing Peace, Purpose, Connection and Pleasure or
o Conflict, Confusion, Disconnection and Pain in Your Committed Relationship?
o A Leader, Role Model and Positive Contributor in Your Family and Community?
o Feeling Fulfilled, Passionate and Successful in Your Professional Life?
o Creating Relationships Based on Honestly, Integrity and Compassion?

• Inquiries for Clarity: In Which Relationship(s):

o Is There a Discrepancy Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be?
o Are You Not in Alignment with Your Purpose, Inner Voice and Authentic Self?
o Is Your Soul Not at Peace, Living in Fear and Giving Your Personal Power Away?
o Is Conflict within Yourself and/or Others Increasing in Frequency and Intensity?
o Do the R’s Show Up – Regret, Remorse, Resentment, Resistance, Repression?

What is Stopping You?

• Self-Limiting Beliefs, Fear & Pain: The Conflict and Blockages Within Your Head, Heart and Soul

o Language of Self-Limiting BS – Belief Systems

 Not Accepted
 Not Being Loved
 Not Good Enough

o Fables of Fear

 False Evaluation About Reality
 Forever Evading And Running
 Face Everything And Revitalize

o Symptoms of Pain

 Upset: Disappointment, Frustration, Defensiveness
 Anger: Resistance, Resentment, Contempt
 Suffering: Pervasive, Personal, Permanent

o Which Door Do You Choose

1. Pass the Buck - Blame Experiences, Events, Other People and/or Yourself
2. State of Now - Adjust a Situation or Relationship In Your Life Now
3. Your GPS - Re-Program Your Global Processing System

Where Do You Begin?

• Destiny: Your Journey to Authenticity, a Peaceful Soul and Emotionally Intelligent Relationships

o Steps to Claiming Your Destiny

 Decision
 Direction
 Destination

o Defining Your Relationship D’s

 Inner-Self
 Committed
 Personal
 Professional

o Your GPS to Destiny

 Perception - Thoughts, Meanings and Beliefs About Yourself, Others and Events
 Presence - Your Energy and How You Manifest It Within Yourself and With Others
 Procedure - The Way You Go About Interacting and Taking Action

o The Questions of Destiny

• What Are the Controlling Forces That Affect Your Decisions?
• What Do You Need to Realize In Oder To Change Your Direction?
• What Can You Learn That Will Help You To Arrive At Your Destination?

What Is Your Plan?

• Overview: The “I-TO-WE” Journey

o The Journey Begins With the “I”

 Awareness: Connect Your Dots
 Understanding: Why Do We Do What We Do
 Action: Change is The Path to a Peaceful Soul

o Synergy Skills “TO” Improve and Strengthen Your Relationships

 Communication: The Holy Grail of Relationships
 Control: Manage Emotional Energy Within Yourself and Your Relationships
 Commitment: Lay the Ground Work to Give Your “WE” the Greatest Chance of Success

o The Journey Continues With the “WE”

 The Cycle of Conflict: Initiate, Perpetuate and Escalate
 Choose to Cross the Bridge: End the Cycle of Conflict Forever
 Connection: Fulfill Needs, Speak Languages, Align Beliefs and Bond for a Lifetime