Objective: Create Emotionally Intelligent Relationships
    • Relationship Intelligence: Mental, Emotional and Spiritual
    • The Four Relationships in Your Life: Inner - Committed - Personal – Professional
    • Understand Your “I” and Learn How to “Show Up” to be a “WE” in All Relationships

Process: My Coaching Philosophy & Style
    • Insightful Listening: You Already Have the Answers to Your Questions
    • Powerful Questions: Help Clear the Mud from the Windshield So You Can See Your Answers
    • Hold Up a Mirror: Challenging You Leads to Defining Moments and Lasting Change

Goal: A Peaceful Soul
    • Free From Fear: Create Safety for You and Others and Love the Life You Are Living
    • Honor Yourself: Live In Alignment with Your Vision, Values and Inner Voice
    • Be at Peace: Who You Are, Where You Are, Who You Are With, and What You Are Doing

Awareness: The Journey Begins With the “I”
    • Restless Soul: Are You Frozen in Fear, Feel Unsafe and Burdened by Question Marks
    • Look in the Mirror: Drop the Shield of Denial, and Be Honest with Yourself and Others
    • Your Choice: Defend & Blame OR Own & Change

Understanding: The Cycle of Conflict
    • Wounds and Fears: Source of Internal Negative Energy and Reactivity
    • Reactive Relationships: Why People Have Frequent and Intense Circular Arguments
    • Escalating Conflicts: How Each Person’s Cycle Interacts, Overlaps and Merges

Techniques: Repair, Improve and Strengthen Your “WE”
    • Conflict Management: Stop the Battle Before the War Begins
    • Communicate: Discuss Thoughts and Feelings in a Safe, Honest, Peaceful and Respectful Manner
    • Connect: Speak Each Other’s Relationship Languages and Bond for a Lifetime

Emotional Energy
    • Origin: Experiences - Perceptions - Thoughts - Emotions – Energy
    • Law of Attraction: Your Energy Influences Your Attitude, Aura and Appeal
    • Destiny: Choose to Never Give Your Personal Power Away

Assume Absolute Personal Responsibility for Your “I”
    • Inspiration: Learn, Stretch, Grow, Mature and Change
    • Empowerment: Live by The 5 Attitudes of Consciousness
    • Motivation: Whatever is Hardest to Change Leads to the Greatest Growth

Exercise:
    • Define Your 5 Attitudes of Consciousness
    • Create a Plan for Dramatic Personal Change

Emotional Wounds: Source of Pain, Fear and Conflict
    • “Your Baggage”: Caused by Negative Experiences You Perceive as Painful
    • Perception vs. Reality: Perception is 9/10’s of the Law
    • Hiding Your Pain: Laying the First Bricks of Your Emotional Bunker

Fear: Negative Energy that Emulates from Emotional Wounds
    • Birth of Your Troll: The Voice of Your Fears
    • FEAR: Forever Evading Another Reality – False Evidence Appearing Real
    • 1st Law of EIR: Fear and Love Cannot Co-exist in the Same Relationship Space

The Twin Pillars: The Language of Your Troll
    • Trolls Dictionary: Distorted Perspectives & Unrealistic Expectations
    • Kaleidoscope: Inability to Distinguish between Past Pain, Present Reality and Future Anxiety
    • Be a Spielberg: Create Blockbuster Movies About the Future in Your Mind

Triggers: Emotional Hot Buttons
    • Sensitized Issues & Situations: Where the Past and Future Meets the Present
    • Release the Kraken: Open the Gate to the Well of Pain
    • Everyday External Events: What People Focus On, Instead of the Real Internal Issue

Reactivity: Release of Negative Emotional Energy
    • Definition: Inappropriate, Destructive or Toxic WABs- Words, Actions & Behaviors
    • Your Rambo Pack: Favorite Weapons of Choice - Relationship Killer WABs
    • 2nd Law of EIR: Reactivity and Safety Cannot Co-exist in the Same Relationship Space

Exercises:
    • Fearful Thoughts, Negative Feelings and Self-Limiting Beliefs
    • Negative Life Experiences
    • Origin of Emotional Wounds
    • Connect the Dots

The Unconscious Connection: Why People Fall In Love and Love to Fight
    • The “Imago” Principle: You Don’t Know This Yet But Hurry Up and Heal Me, Please?
    • 3 Rings and the Bunker: Inviting Someone in and Unknowingly, Handing Them a Sharp Poker
    • Why We Say, “Who Are You? Yikes, I Have Never Seen That Side of You Before”

Triggering the Other’s “I”: Let the Games Begin
    • Welcome to the Reactive Relationship Dance: Resentment, Contempt and Anger Tango
    • Filling Up The Well of Pain: Overwhelming and Flooding Each Other with Negative Energy
    • Painful Memories and Negative Perspectives: Looking Over Your Shoulder at the Path of Destruction

Reactivity Response: You Get What You Ask For
    • Feed Me: Strengthening Your Troll Via Your Partner’s Response
    • Definition of Insanity: Validating Your Wounds and Reinforcing Your Fears
    • Consequences: Pushing Your Partner Over the Hill and Out of the Relationship

Disconnection Principle: The Warning Flag of Wounds
    • The Why Factor: “Why Would You Get So Upset over Such a Small Issue?”
    • Reality vs. Reactivity: Does the Level of Reactivity Match the Reality of the Event
    • Perspective Scale: How to Distinguish Between Reality and Reactivity

Helping or Hurting: Salt or Ointment
    • Reactivity Rescue: Help Your Partner Avoid Escalating and Going Above the Threshold into Rage
    • Change: Remove the Teflon Shield and Drop the Suit of Armor
    • Empowerment: Surrender to the Power of Being Your Relationship’s “Pied Piper”

Exercises:
    • Personality Trait Triggers
    • “WE” Conflict Cycle
    • Salt and Ointment
    • Identify and Change Relationship Killer Weapons of Choice
 

Conflict Management: Create the Safety for Success
    • Your “Modus Operandi”: Are You an “Innie” or an “Outie
    • “Danger, Danger”: Recognize Your Inner Warning Alarm and Turn the Tide Within 3 Seconds
    • Observe, Not Engage: Distinguish Between Your Inner Voice and the Voice of Your Troll

Exercise:
    • Manage Your Negative Emotions
    • The Olive Branch

Communication: The Holy Grail of Relationships
    • Send & Receive Messages: The Most Important Skill to Learn for Relationships
    • Communication Temple: Creating a Safe Space to Talk about Thoughts and Feelings
    • Structure is Good: Six Directions to Ensure Your Voice is Heard and Understood

Exercise:
    • Conscious Discussion Technique
    • Topic Listing
    • The Daily Guide

Connection: Speaking Each Others Relationship Languages

Laying the Ground Work
    • Engage, Don’t Avoid: Your Can’t Begin to Repair If You Do Not Share
    • “WE” Time: Make a Plan to Spend Time Together to Work On the Relationship
    • Give Gifts of Fun, Joy and Laughter: Make Deposits and Not Withdraws from the Love Bank

Exercise:
    • Non-Avoidance
    • “WE” Time
    • Gifts, Activities and Recreation

Learning Each Other’s Relationship Languages
    • 15 Languages: The Concrete Foundation of the Relationship Home
    • Safety & Trust: Most Important Languages to Define, Learn and Speak
    • Language Killers: Assumption, Expectation & Obligation

Relationship Languages

    1 - Feelings of Safe, Loved, and Cared for
    2 - Thoughts of Trust, Respect, and Admiration
    3 - Fulfillment of Required, Important, and Desired Needs
    4 - Alignment of Vision, Values and Friendship
    5 - Experiences of Romance, Intimacy, and Sexuality

Exercise:
    • Safe, Loved and Cared for
    • Trust, Respect and Admiration
    • Required, Important and Desired Needs
    • Values, Vision and Friendship
    • Romance, Intimacy and Sexuality