About Glenn

I am reminded of the $1.00 bet the Dukes brothers made in the movie, “Changing Places.” The basis of the bet was whether our environment or genetics determined whether a person was happy and successful in life. One of my core philosophies is that nothing is 100% and usually the 80/20 rule applies. There is plenty of scientific proof how genetics plays a large role in how we develop as individuals. We do not have a choice when it comes to our genes but we do have choices in our adult life when it comes to our environment and the decisions we make.

My personal belief and professional focus is that 80% of what determines our success and happiness in adulthood is influences by 3 factors. The first is our perception of our past experiences and the impact these experiences have on our thoughts and feelings. The second are the perspectives we view others and ourselves and the choices we make in our present experiences. The third is the interplay between the 1st and 2nd and how this affects our relationships at home, at work and within ourselves.

We all make our own mistakes in life and/or have painful events happen to us. The key distinction to understand is that these events are not what determine our destiny so much as the perspective we choose to adopt concerning the experience. Do you choose to view it from the victim perspective- defend, deny and deflect, give your power away, become consumed with negative energy, create conflict with others and yourself or do you choose to view the experience with a self-empowering perspective- own, learn and change, take responsibility for your choices, become inspired and develop a plan of action to move forward in your life and create peaceful and happy relationships with others and yourself.

Throughout my life, I have held a deep belief that every experience happened for a reason and that reason would become clear to me one day. The Journey from “I-TO-WE” is the by-product of my experiences and choices.

I begin my story in May, 1994, when I sold my pharmacy business. My career started early. As a boy, I worked in my father’s drugstore. I graduated college with a pharmacy degree and joined my father in managing our family-owned chain of stores. Pharmacy can be a rewarding profession, but it was not my passion and purpose. When I sold my business, I was happy to be moving into a new phase of life. I could never have imagined what the next 16 years would bring.

In January 1995, my wife and I separated and I found myself a single father of a 3-year-old son. In the years that followed, I danced on the edge of financial ruin. I suffered through the sudden and tragic death of my little brother. From receiving a DUI to undergoing 2 major back surgeries, my life was spinning out of control. I experienced a broken engagement and other failed relationships. I lost my father after two years fighting pancreatic cancer and watched him peacefully pass away in his bed. Forced to sell my home, I moved several times and changed careers twice.

During those years of chaos and turmoil, I experienced a long, tragic, and painful journey. I inflicted enormous pain on myself as I battled inner demons. I lived frozen in the grips of fear, continuing to make poor decisions, acting as a victim and wallowing in self-pity. I masked my feelings as an effort to disguise the insecurity, humiliation, embarrassment, disconnection and shame that I carried in my heart and soul every day.

I recall many nights crying when alone or while next to my son as he slept. I was emotionally unavailable for my son during this time. I remember one night he asked me to play and I told him to play by himself. I vividly remember the look of sadness and disappointment on his face as he walked back to his room. I knew at the time I was hurting him, but I was frozen and could not be there for him. I numbed my pain with cigarettes and alcohol. I grew increasingly lonely and isolative as I hid myself behind a thick shield of denial.

During that period, I found myself sinking deeper and deeper into an emotional abyss. I realized that I had three choices. One, I could give up and jump in. Two, I could allow myself to continue living my life in fear on the ledge. Three, I could choose to summon my strength and courage, grab the flashlight, and find the ladder that would lead me out of the darkness and despair. Fortunately for my family and myself, I made the choice to climb the ladder towards the light of hope with a positive belief for the future.

Despite the duration and intensity of my painful experiences, I maintained an unshakable belief that I was destined for something larger than myself. A gut feeling assured me that I would find the purpose and meaning behind my struggles. In essence, I believed God was leading me on this journey to gain insight, wisdom, and truth. I knew in my soul that if I somehow maintained faith in that destiny, the path would lead me to my true life purpose.

I began to climb the ladder on a sunny July afternoon many years ago. One day I was sitting in the screened porch of my home, watching the ducks swimming in the pond in my backyard. I felt the urge to go to the book store and I bought Tony Robbins’s book, Awaken the Giant Within. As I read the book, I realized that something must shift, and I was the only one to make it happen. Leaving an enormous influence on my thinking, his words opened my eyes to personal awareness, controlling the mind, having a positive attitude, and taking absolute personal responsibility for my words, actions, and behaviors. The book also introduced me to the concept of coaching.

As I embarked on my journey, I knew that anything was possible. I became inspired to find answers. I would determine my purpose in life. I would leave the abyss, never to return. In effect, the awareness that I must begin to change crystallized in my mind. Nine months of deep soul searching passed before I began to find the answers. Coincidentally, all these discoveries were taking place at the same time I was trying to navigate a chaotic and painful personal relationship. I began to understand that I had to take personal responsibility in order to learn and grow from this traumatic experience. Consequently, I initiated a feverish process of self-education and personal improvement. I read every book I could find on the subject of relationships. I attended workshops and seminars. I committed myself to massive action.

You have probably heard at least one person tell the story of a “defining moment” in their life. On another sunny day in July, one year after my first awakening, I was walking along the beach when the second epiphany happened. I have no idea why or how, but I suddenly emerged from my protective bunker. After years of darkness, I was present and finally, I saw the beauty of the world and felt free to love others and myself. At that point, I felt peace in my soul for the first time and knew I was on the right path.

When I listened to my inner voice for the first time, I knew I was to become a coach. I would use my experiences to help couples and individuals achieve and enjoy successful relationships with others and within themselves. During my journey, I received certification from The Coach Training Institute and The Relationship Coaching Institute. There is an old saying, “It is hard to help someone else, if you have not been there, done that”. I bring the lessons I have learned from my personal experiences, the experiences I have learned from others I have coached and the multitudes of other people I have studied who have dedicated their lives to helping others.

Today, I am living my professional dream by helping couples and individuals gain the awareness of how their perception of past experiences can influence them, to understand how the ramifications of these experiences have on their current relationships and to learn new skills and techniques to create positive habits that give them the greatest chance of success in their relationships. You have four relationships in your life. The relationship you have with yourself, with your partner in a committed relationship, your family and friends in your personal relationships and the relationships you have in your professional life. All four of these are interconnected. My expertise is coaching couples but I am passionate and dedicated to help individuals create emotionally intelligent relationships in all 4 areas of their lives.

It is my honor, privilege, and passion to help couples and individuals through their journey to gain the awareness, understanding and techniques to create emotionally intelligent relationships at home, at work and within themselves. If you would like to ask questions and explore whether you feel I can help you, please Contact me