I"I-TO-WE" News
April 2007

April is here and it is time to begin the annual process of spring-cleaning. It is the time of year when we open our windows to the warm fragrant breeze, point our tired faces towards the sun, and clean our homes. As I write this article, I faithfully remind myself of the need to pack away my winter clothes and move my summer clothes to the front of my closet. I approach this task with about as much enthusiasm as filing my taxes. However once the job is complete, I feel somehow lighter, liberated, and more energized.

Spring represents the beginning of a new year. As I write this on my back porch, I am looking out over the marsh. The egrets have returned from their winter hiatus, the trees are green and lush, and the flowers are blooming. I do love this time of the year.

As we begin to open our windows and clean house, it is also an opportune time to begin some personal housekeeping. Many people find themselves feeling lethargic during the winter months and leaning towards procrastination. For me, this is evident by the winter weight I put on every year. Also, during those cold and gray months, we often put our personal growth on hold.

Every year at about this time, I find myself gearing up to shed the winter weight and resume my exercise routine with reckless abandon. The first few days are always tough, but as the momentum builds and the extra pounds begin to melt away, my energy level increases and I feel much better physically and spiritually.

Today is the first day of April and I find myself contemplating the following questions:
• What can I do or stop doing that could improve my relationship?
• What can I do to refresh my mind so I think in a more positive perspective?
• Are there any fears I have that are blocking me and/or my relationship?

The first question resonates most powerfully with me. Although I listen very intently to my clients, in my own personal relationship, I believe I can do a much better job of being less reactive and listening to my partner at a deeper level. This means allowing her the time, space, and respect, to deliver her message in the manner she needs to deliver it even if it is not the best way for me. I know this is true because she told me so earlier this morning.

The best barometer through which to measure our relationship housekeeping needs is by listening to what our partner says. They are the holder of our mirror because they relate to us on a more intimate level than anyone else, and we must respect them for the very difficult job they have. Try not to perceive your partner’s thoughts and feelings from a negative perspective. Rather, try to listen more deeply, and hear your partner’s message as an invitation to look inside yourself and begin to own your own process of growth and change. The best indicator of the areas where you need to grow is your level of defensiveness and reactivity. The stronger the negative reaction, the greater the need is for change.

Consider which of the above questions resonate most powerfully with you. Has your partner recently sent a message or made a request that you failed to hear, honor, and fulfill, due to your own defensiveness and reactivity? What can you do to help yourself and your relationship? What fears, issues, thoughts, and behaviors can you identify as areas for personal growth and change, in order to be the best partner you can possibly be? .

Spring is in the air. Spring is about change and change is about growth. I challenge you to begin your own spring-cleaning. Now is the perfect time of year to be honest and open with yourself, and inject some fresh, positive energy into your relationships. I am fully committed to following through. Are you?

• I am currently writing the second edition of my workbook The Journey from “I-TO-WE” . Many people have told me that it is to big and intimidating. So, I am in the process of splitting out the topic explanations to write a regular size book and then re-publishing the workbook to accompany the new book. I am hoping to have this completed by the summer.

• I have updated the website to reflect changes that have occurred. Please stop by and view the new pages. “I-TO-WE” Relationship Coaching Home Page

• I wrote an article last week titled “Successful Relationships Improve the Bottom Line.” If you are involved in the business world, I think you will find it an interesting read.

• We are very excited about the Tele-Class series for the Spring and Summer. Check out the list below and please join us. It is fun and easy to participate. Just go to “I-TO-WE” Tele-Class and sign up.

• If you have any feedback or would like to ask me your biggest relationship question, challenge or concern, e-mail me by clicking on the following link - Ask Glenn

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Tuesday, April 10 at 9:00 PM EST
Emotionally Intelligent Relationships - What They are and How to Have Them
• Create relationships based on safety, trust, respect, and admiration.

Tuesday, April 24 at 9:00 PM EST
The Secret to Success - How to Live a Life of Peace, Passion and Purpose
• Learn the simple steps to empower you to have and enjoy all you want in your life and relationships.

Tuesday, May 8 at 9:00 PM EST
Am “I” Ready to be a “WE?” - Understanding What YOU Bring to Your Relationships
• Learn, stretch, grow, and change to enjoy successful relationships in all areas of your life.

Tuesday, May 22 at 9:00 PM EST
Conscious Communication - Four Steps for Speaking and Listening Effectively
• Gain the skills and practice the techniques to communicate peacefully, respectfully, and successfully in all of your relationships.

Tuesday, June 5 at 9:00 PM EST
Erase Relationship Conflicts Forever - Discover How to Have Win-Win Discussions
• Master the 10 steps for compromising to manage conflicts and problems in all of your relationships. .

Tuesday, June 19 at 9:00 PM EST
Create a Life-Long Bond - Connect and Become Best Friends with Your Mate
• Have fun creating a lifelong deep connection and lasting friendship.

Tuesday, July 10 at 9:00 PM EST
Stoking the Fires - Develop the Romance and Intimacy You Really Want
• Discover the three steps to identify, speak, and enjoy your partner’s Passion Language.

Tuesday, July 24 at 9:00 PM EST
Loving Your Life Together - Create Shared Vision and Values to Live Happily Ever After
• Enjoy defining what you both want and working together to accomplish all you desire.

Tuesday August 7 at 9:00 PM EST
Relationship Skill Building – Learn and Live “The 12 Principles of “I-TO-WE”
• Create a rock solid foundation based on the skills and techniques needed to ensure your relationship success.

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