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Volume 1, Issue 10
It has been awhile since I have sent out a newsletter. I have been consumed writing the next edition of the book. I have divided the first edition into two books. One will be an updated version of the 1st edition but only contain the exercises. This will remain in the 8 x 11 format. The workbook has been reorganized with many new exercises. The book is going to be very special. It is a 6 x 9 book divided into seven sections with the concepts and explanation of how to Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship. What will make the book so unique is a case vignette that will tell the story of a couple throughout the book. This story is the combination of many couples I have coached over the years. At the end of each chapter will be part of their story that relates to the concept in that chapter. This way, you will be able to relate and better understand the material by reading the vignette. The book will retail for $19.95 and the workbook will be $24.95. I am hoping to have both books out by November 8th. I ask each of you to order a copy and please let me know what you think. I would appreciate you going to Amazon.com and ranking it and writing a recommendation. Also, I would be very grateful when the book does come out if you would go by your local bookstore and ask them to order in a few copies. The article for this month is a new concept that is in the new book. It is called the Five Attitudes of Consciousness. Many times we get so caught up in our fears and distorted perspectives, we lose sight of what is really important to us. If you can adopt these five attitudes and live by them, you will find your heart open to give love and your soul more at peace.
Have you ever experienced a day that knocked you off center and your mind became preoccupied with negative thoughts of self-pity, resentment and anger? Maybe you began your day by stepping in a puppy accident on your new white carpet, your spouse was grumpy, your car had a flat tire, you got stuck on the interstate for 3 hours, had a frustrating telephone conversation with your guilt-inducing mother and to top it off, cable goes out before the finale of your favorite show. Now, that is a bad day! We have all experienced days when our negative thoughts, feelings, and perspectives block our ability to find peace, joy and fulfillment. We tend to project frustration and pain onto those closest to us while taking our relationships for granted. How often do you allow the pain of the past or anxiety about the future to inhibit you from enjoying the pleasure of the present moment with your spouse? How often do you focus on what you do not have or find yourself feeling envious of others? Have you ever caught yourself resenting someone for what they have failed to give to you, rather than appreciate what they have already given to you? Are you presently holding a grudge against someone you love, and allowing the toxicity of anger and resentment to cloud your mind and poison your soul? Do you have a negative movie playing in your mind about the past, present or future? It is inevitable that our spouse will fail to satisfy our needs and desires sometimes, and we will find ourselves faced with difficulties and challenges at the most inopportune moments. As we all know, life never goes according to plan. However, there is a way to bring us back to a positive state of inner peace: We have the choice to effectively manage our attitudes and perceptions. The ability to remain conscious of our thoughts and the energy we project into our environment and relationships is critical to the state of our own emotional health and our relationships overall happiness. The Five Attitudes of Consciousness were designed to help people develop new ways to turn the kaleidoscope of their perspectives by re-framing negative, self-defeating thoughts. If you adopt and live your life by these attitudes, they will guide you on your journey towards inner peace and healthy relationships: The Attitude of Now Capacity to live in the moment, knowing that you can control only what is happening now. It is fruitless to try and change the past or control the future. The ability to remain mindful and embrace the present moment forms the foundation for controlling your mind to appreciate the beauty each day has to offer. To create a life of WOW, you must live in the NOW! The Attitude of Gratitude Being fully present in the now moment opens up the door to inner peace, joy, and gratitude for who you are, where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing. Gratitude leads to self-empowerment and a positive perspective of abundance and fulfillment, rather than the self-limiting perspective of scarcity and longing. The Attitude of Giving - When you are grateful for what you have, you are free to give of yourself openly and unconditionally. Unconditional giving is the greatest gift you can offer yourself and your loved ones. It helps to remember that you must give before you receive. The Attitude of Forgiveness Unconditional giving leads to forgiveness. The capacity for forgiveness is the key ingredient to a peaceful soul. There is a wise saying, Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. If you cling to the toxic energy of resentment, contempt, and anger, you will only poison yourself. The Attitude of Belief The attitude of belief is the presumption of a positive perspective. It is an absolute commitment to live your life in deep alignment with your core beliefs and values. An absolute conviction to live each day with intension to make all of your hopes, dreams, and aspirations come true. Why not begin right now, by reflecting on yourself, your life, and your personal relationships. Challenge yourself to re-frame your negative perspectives in order to allow peace into your soul, positive energy into your life and love into your heart. Order The Journey from I-TO-WE Book and Workbook Discover the benefits of Personal Life Coaching Learn about Couples Coaching See how we can help your company with our Business Coaching Receive our Free Monthly Newsletter Register for the Free Couples Relationship Assessment Register for the Free Personal Assessment Quiz Host or attend a Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship Workshop Host a Professional Relationship Workshop Listen to FREE audios and podcasts. If you have any questions or comments,
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