The "I-TO-WE" News"
December 2007

Happy Holidays!!!!

Well, I am about 2 weeks away from sending the new book to the publisher. I know you are saying yada, yada yada, I have heard this for months. This time it is true!

It has been along road since I began this process last April. But I know it will be well worth all of the time and effort that so many people have put into it.

I look forward to hearing from you after you read the new book. I am especially excited about the vignette that has been added. It is a great addition that helps the reader to understand and learn how to apply the concepts, skills and techniques in the book, not to mention, it is a great story.

I have added the links below for you to read the new Introduction and Overview.

The Journey from “I-TO-WE” Book Introduction

The Journey from “I-TO-WE” Book Overview

I have a very special article I want to share with you. I found it recently and after reading it, knew I had to send it as my holiday message. It is written by George Carlin, after his wife passed away.

As we enter this magical time of the year, I want you to hear the meaning in his words. It is the familiar pain we have all felt at times – the pain of guilt and regret.

In this holiday season, let’s gain awareness of what is really important. I tell my clients to rate issues and problems on a scale of 1 through 10. 10 would be if the person you loved the most in the world suddenly died. Where does your current issue or dilemma rate?

So many times we withhold our love or not give of ourselves because the pain of the past or the anxiety of the future prevents us from looking at the present in the proper perspective. How many couples and families are estranged because something happened in the past they feel is an 8 but comparing it to the above scale, it is really a 2?

How many people wake up on New Years morning regretting they did not do something they knew they should have or wanted to over the holidays? Why, because they allowed themselves to be blocked by fear?

How many people can not get out of their own way to give someone the benefit of the doubt? Imagine that concept. If we gave each other the benefit of the doubt, how much better the world would be.

The last article I sent was The 5 Attitudes of Consciousness. After you read George’s article, I ask you to please take the time to think of the following questions:

1. What could I do differently to be present and live in the moment?
2. What am I grateful for?
3. How can I give of myself unconditionally?
4. Whom do I need to forgive?
5. Which attitude of positive belief can I choose to adopt?

As we begin this holiday season, let George’s message be a compass to point us in the direction of enjoying the present moment, being grateful for what we have, opening our hearts to give, forgiving ourselves and the ones we love and adopting a positive belief.

Let’s pledge not to take the NOW for granted because you never know what the next now moment will bring. You never know when someone you love, maybe the one whom you have not appreciated, given the benefit of the doubt to or truly given the love you know you could have, is not in your life anymore.

I hope you have a peaceful, joyous and happy holiday season.

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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